No matter how well your children behave, situations arise when you’re ready to trade them in for a different model, maybe delay picking them up from school or pretend they belong to someone else in the grocery store.
Eight-month-old Quentin is up before the break of dawn on most days.
Once he’s fed, he might go back to sleep for an hour, but then it’s time for his sister Lucy who is 7, to get up for school. Lucy’s mom painstakingly chooses an outfit for her, but it’s quickly rejected, and in the midst of it all, Quentin starts fussing and requires immediate attention.
The middle child, BreeAnn, who just turned 2, has just awoken and is making her way into the fray. She promptly peels off her pajamas and stands buck-naked in the hallway, demanding to take a shower, even though she just had one the night before. Mom is at her wits end trying to keep peace when every piece of her is being stretched in ten different directions.
Once Lucy is off to school, Mom packs up the other two kids and loads them in the van with the hope of running errands. One of the stores she shops at offers free popcorn, and BreeAnn is more than happy to indulge. After leaving that store with popcorn in hand, the trio travels peacefully to another destination. Well, that is, until BreeAnn starts to scream from the back seat about something hurting really badly.
Unable to see what’s happening, mom pulls over on the side of the road. She quickly disengages her seatbelt, turns around expecting to see blood, and discovers her daughter has popped a kernel into her nose and can’t get it out.?
Now who isn’t envious of that mom who gets to experience such excitement? It makes going to work a piece of cake! Parenting is tiring, especially when children are young. This event actually happened to a mom I know, and after she shared it with me, she said, “Are my kids the only ones that act like this?”?
Parents often feel alone, thinking everybody else’s kids are angels. This mom even shared with me that later on that evening, when the kids were again bouncing off the walls, her husband sheepishly shared with her that he wasn’t even sure he liked his kids at that moment.?
What parents haven’t experienced those feelings from time to time? As a parent, you never stop loving your kids, but certainly there are moments, hours, days, weeks and maybe months that you aren’t real crazy about their behavior. No matter how well your children behave, situations arise when you’re ready to trade them in for a different model, maybe delay picking them up from school or pretend they belong to someone else in the grocery store.
It’s all a very normal reaction, and not something to feel guilty about.? Certainly, if your child is exhibiting some extreme behaviors that seem out of the norm, like never responding to discipline, aggressiveness towards others or an inability to ever settle down, then maybe you need to seek professional help.
The key is to act upon your intuition. Moms and dads have an innate sense about their kids, and despite what someone else might tell you, you know when something is wrong or different about them. Trust that “inner voice,” as it’s sometimes referred to.
Trends in parenting change every year. A new way to discipline. A better way to potty-train. But what doesn’t change is kids sometimes drive their parents crazy, and parents have even been known to drive their kids crazy. ?It’s all part of the process, and it’s all very normal.
Dan Seaborn is a non-denominational Christian evangelist and a published author of such books as "The Necessary Nine: How to Stay Happily Married for Life!" He is the founder of Winning at Home Inc., a ministry that focuses its attention on the relationships between a husband and wife and between parents and their children.